Monday, April 18, 2016

Childhood's end

A few days ago, I got the terrible news that my oldest, dearest, best friend Margaret had passed away.  It was actually only by chance that I found out: an email I had sent her was returned as undeliverable, so I called her to see why.  Her family was so torn apart and in shock that they hadn't managed to organize themselves to begin to notify people like me.
This is the last photo I have of Margaret; it was taken on her 50th birthday, almost 2 years ago.  I haven't seen her in person since my last trip to California, in 2008.  I wrote about Margaret once, here.
Margaret and I have been friends since we were both 11 years old.  For our whole lives, my nickname for her has been Piglet; I only started calling her by her real name a few years ago -- because, at our age, Piglet had just become too silly and childish.
Even living so far away from each other these last 14 years, we have kept in close touch by phone, email, and visits. I wouldn't dream of going to California and not making Margaret's house my very first stop.
This week, I'll make the trip back to California for her funeral.  It doesn't seem possible.  It can't be real, it is too sad for's the last thing I expected to be doing now.
You see, Margaret's death was as a result of alcoholism. It goes without saying that I have tried everything over the years to help her overcome her addiction.  If you've ever loved an alcoholic, then you also know how complex and difficult it can be. 
I can't imagine what life will be like without Margaret?
I hate it that I will have to find out, now: too soon.


vintageandart said...

This is my first visit here but when l read your heartfelt post l just had to pop in and say how sorry l am for your loss...yes alcoholism is an insidious disease and very difficult to treat as you already safe in your travels. Love your winnie the pooh verses.

Tammy@T's Daily Treasures said...

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear of Margaret's death. She was much too young. A shame that she could not outrun her demons. Safe travels. Blessings of comfort and peace.

JoAnne said...

I am so sorry Laurie. Sending love and prayers. XO

Michele Murray said...

Sorry Laurie.

Lorraine said...

So sorry for your loss. I pray for her and her family.

Marrianna said...

Been there, done that. It is very sad, indeed. And to know that we can't help the sufferer until that person wants help is sometimes the hardest thing to do and accept. Safe travels to your loving friend.

Curtains in My Tree said...

This is very sad indeed. I know all about an alcoholic my daughter in law died at age 36 and left my 2 little grandsons, so very sad.
They don't hear or see anything but alcohol.
I know you friends family is very sad. It's a sad feeling we can't help these people in our lives. My Dad died an alcoholic.

Wendy said...

So sorry for the loss of your friend. May your happy memories of her give you comfort during this time. Safe travels as you go to say goodbye.

Pallas said...

I'm sorry you lost your old friend, and know that it is sad. I too lost a friend last year that had been my friend for 45 years - since we were 20 year old "hot chicks". Whenever I thought of her, she would call me and vise versa. My heart goes out to you as you prepare to go to her funeral. Hugs.

Linda said...

Laurie, peace and solace until you two meet again....."even longer" I hope. My heartfelt sympathy to you.

jeanniemc said...

Try to remember the good times and that you were always her lifelong friend who must have seen the good in her...Prayers for safe travel and her family...hugs..

Kathy said...

I am so sorry for your loss, Laurie!