I knew it was coming, and so did you because I've been talking about it for months, haven't I? On Thursday, my son left home to move into the dorms at his college.
Oh, there are a couple of articles on coping with your child leaving home on the Internet that have come my way, but, seriously, there should be whole books. Remember What to Expect When You're Expecting? There needs to be a book like that for this phase of life, too. It could be called something like, What You Need to Know to Let Go and it could be filled with sage advice on things like how to stop listening for them to come home every night, and what to do with all the extra milk in the refrigerator.
There could be charts showing milestones and when to expect them -- like the first time you come across his favorite snack in the grocery aisle without tearing up, and that moment you actually feel happy to have the TV all to yourself.
There would need to be a whole chapter on ways to not be clingy/needy, including a checklist for not calling, emailing and/or texting your kid multiple times a day, with a chart that shows you just how long is long enough to wait to make that first, post dorm drop-off contact.
Such a book might even lay out a timeline for how long it might take to stop feeling so sad. During week one, expect to feel your heart in your throat at the sight of your child's empty bedroom. By the end of week three, your chest should feel less like it has been cut open and more like healing has begun. Until this happens, avoid laying on your child's bed clutching his pillow as it could lead to more frequent bouts of sobbing and self-pity.
This is day four. I think I have a long way to go!
Saturday, July 25, 2015
I'll bet things are in full summer busy-ness at your house. They are here!
We are counting down to less than a month until Ben goes away to college. The other day his dorm room linens arrived and he must have been excited because he pulled it all out of the big box to check out. It's still strewn all over my living room.
I don't have much time for junking and am concentrating on de-stashing right now, so there's not a lot of creative fun going on in my life. But...last weekend when a storm blew in, I couldn't resist grabbing a bag of vintage red fabrics and starting a fabric book.
Still in its beginning phases -- the front cover is a patchwork star layered with some other reds. The fabric on the right, above, isn't vintage.
I wrapped a doily around the front and back covers and I really love the way it turned out.
Now I have a little stitching project to work on. I think when it's done I'll add some Christmas-y elements so it becomes a holiday fabric book.
Also on my mind: reading this as soon as possible. I haven't been this excited over a novel in ages. The story of Harper Lee's quiet talent is intriguing to me. Anyone else?
Saturday, July 11, 2015
We have been sad this week, missing our best friend.
Maggie was 13 and has been in failing health for a few years. She had congestive heart failure and on our last visit with her lifelong vet, he told us what to look out for so we would know when it was time.
We spent a couple of days, tears flowing freely, remembering her entire life. And what a life she had! We brought her home for Ben's 5th birthday...
she came from field champion hunting stock and the outdoors was in her blood. She loved the water and the forest. I'm so happy that we took her on camping trips with us, and have wonderful memories of her running through the woods and sleeping under the stars.
We once rented a cabin because it was right next to a flowing stream so she could play in the water, which was a big hit. Maggie enjoyed walking, hiking and, most of all, swimming.
She was an only dog for a few years but bonded instantly with Snoopy when he joined the family, and they were best buddies until the end.
What is there to say about the love of a dog? If you've experienced it, then you know.
These last few days I have been so struck by how much love she brought into our home.
Maggie loved us with a big, open heart that gave and gave and gave, day in and day out. We were so lucky to have her in our lives.
And we will miss her forever.
Wednesday, July 1, 2015
Even though I missed Birdsong this year, I had a chance to get in on the fun: I purchased an extra kit by Lesa Dailey for the class she taught there. It is a little bird decoration she called Juniper June. I think I waited about 18 hours from the time it arrived in the mail until I was at my dining room table creating it!
Sunday, June 21, 2015
We celebrated a milestone the other day when Ben earned the rank of Eagle Scout. We are very proud of him and the hard work he did to earn it; it was a long road.
Wednesday, June 10, 2015
I bought a couple of grown-up coloring books to amuse me during my last days at a job where I could create/play in between phone calls.
Coloring is so relaxing -- I highly recommend it for peaceful moments.
I've even seen some guys at work coloring!
In progress -- I finished this one yesterday, on my last day at work;
I also finished this little stitching project from a kit.
It feels good to be done with all of it -- but most especially the job!
The best part of any experience is always the people, isn't it? Two gals, Kim and Linda, came out to a restaurant after work last night to help me celebrate my last day. We laughed into the evening. Kim has also started a new job and we're rooting for Linda to make a change, too.
Tomorrow I will start my new job working in an office at the beautiful Broadmoor in Colorado Springs. I have high hopes for really loving it there.
Summer seems to have finally really arrived around here.
Rebecca and I stopped by a local market the other day -- here we are in a photo booth that was actually the backseat of a VW bus.
As I've mentioned before, the theme of my summer is transition.
Between the new job and preparing for Ben to go away to college it's change after change.
If only I was more comfortable with change.
Oh well -- nowhere to go but forward!
What is the theme of your summer?
Tuesday, June 2, 2015
After the wettest May on record, ever, in Colorado -- June is here and we are finally seeing some sunshine. So this weekend I got out my garden chair for the front porch.